To be clear, I say this because I want to be certain that those going through any type of struggle understand that there will always be bad with the good and good with the bad. Despite myself, I still have negative and worrisome thoughts that always seem to creep in just as my head reaches the clouds, high from a recent accomplishment Olivia has made or a hard-earned milestone achieved. I have an ongoing, and ever increasing list of things I worry about and they seem to play on repeat in my mind:
- Why Olivia?
- Why our family?
- Will Olivia be okay?
- Will she be able to use her right hand one day?
- Like fully functioning right hand usage?
- Should I truly be worried about speech, will it come just as the walking did, simply delayed?
- Why Olivia?
- Will she always wear this brace (AFO)?
- If not, how long will she wear this brace?
- We need to work on her pushing her right hand through her clothes. Long sleeves are tough.
- Olivia has to wear two different size shoes to accommodate her brace. How will this play out when she is older? How old will she be and have to wear two different size shoes? Old enough to ask for two shoes the same size?
- Don't forget to practice turning book pages, pointing to animals and shapes, repeating words, and 8 million other things when you read to Olivia, not including all the things to remember when you play with or feed Olivia.
- Talk to her while you are in the car, constantly, don't forget. Speech, language. Words. Repeat. Sing songs. Talk constantly. Don't forget!
- Make sure you tell her to use her right hand, when eating, when drinking, when playing. Mention her right hand. Make her see and acknowledge her right hand.
- What if she doesn't acknowledge her right hand, ever?
- How will she do her hair? How will she do all of the little things that I personally have taken for granted my entire life? Tie her shoes? Cut her food with a knife and fork?
- How is this fair that Olivia has to work this hard to reach all developmental milestones?
- Why did this happen?
- Why Olivia?
- Why anyone?
These milestones won't happen through wishful thinking.
These milestones only happen through hard work and fortitude.
Be brave. Your child is stronger than you think. And it turns out, parents are too...
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